Choice

Just a few months back, I had a very interesting conversation over bottles of beer with an officemate from the Operations Department.  Yes, HE is from the Operations Department ’cause really, guys are scarce in our Finance Department.  The Finance Department is virtually filled with girls whom I can hardly invite for even a rootbeer.  Plus, I’m certainly not used to being around girls.  I generally regard girls at the office as ‘teammates’ in which there are certain corporate objectives that only a motivated team can well achieve.  Well, as of this time of writing, they are STILL my teammates haha.  Even when I was still in College taking up Accountancy, gals have outnumbered guys by a significantly huge margin.  This only has supported my simple belief that guys, in general, are not attentive to details.  And as we all know it, Accounting is PLEASANTLY detailed.  And I wasn’t even sarcastic saying that haha.  Well anyway, so I had this very interesting conversation with my officemate from Operations.  Our conversation revolved mostly about girls.  It’s interesting, isn’t it haha?  What can you expect?  We are guys!  Talking about girls among men wouldn’t be a big surprise after all, would it?  I could say that this officemate of mine is a philosopher or a guru when it comes to pulling girls towards him.  He’s like a freakin’ gravity.  He’s not that handsome but he has a way with words and a pretty decent build.  The reason why he can attract girls in an instant.  I was pretty amazed at how he has carried out such an enormous feat.  And simply because I haven’t had a girlfriend in my entire life, I almost considered him as an ICON.  It really was the right time ’cause I was salivating for answers to my seemingly endless despair about girls.  When I told him that I haven’t had a girlfriend ever since I was born, he was shocked.  He said to me (not in English), “You’re a pretty boy bro, go chase!” I was really laughing the whole time not only because he kept on repeating the words “Pretty Boy” but because I don’t honestly think I’m as handsome as he thinks I am haha.  He also encouraged me to pursue the cute girl from his department and he added that if I do pursue her, she would quiver.  That was the punchline hahaha.

It’s really not surprising to me that this kind of motivation usually comes from a kind of guy who enjoys collecting girlfriends like NBA cards.  For the record, I don’t mean it though in a negative way.  This guy from the Operations ‘perhaps’ has been truthful in all the relationships he entered into regardless of the number.  He was actually very helpful to me.  He was even advising me not to be serious all the time.  And I became, all of a sudden, enlightened.  I began asking myself, “Have I really been TOO serious in my approach to get the girl I like?” In these modern times, do nice and SERIOUS guys still finish last?  Do I have to be a little lighter by asking the girl I like after just a couple of dates, “Can we be boyfriend-girlfriend?” Haha.  Damn, I don’t know if I can be that light.

The approach to attract girls highly depends on the guy’s personality.  It also depends on history, well to a certain degree.  The guy would most probably rely on the same old ploy that effectively worked for him in the past.  But the problem on this premise is that girls are also different from one another.  But the approach, at the end of the day, would not matter so long as it is sincere.  If the gal likes the guy so much, I think in these modern times, it’s been so prevalent to bypass the mushy courtship segment and just get into it right away.  But this is way too risky.  Life is too damn short to make such a costly mistake.  Courtship is the getting-to-know stage and bypassing it seems to be a foolish move.  It sounds a little desperate to me haha.  At the end of the day, it’s still our CHOICE that would greatly matter.  For the guy to choose the approach he believes would work and for the girl to choose the guy she believes is genuine.

It’s our sheer freedom to choose that separates us from the brutes.  We must choose the right person whom we think is suitable for us, for a long-term.  We always have to be a hundred percent on all the decisions we try to make.  Yes, we are free to make our choices but we are not free to choose the consequences